Three Thursdays ago, my house-mate and I drove to Daylesford, a breathtakingly beautiful country-town north-west of Melbourne.
This was a day after I had sat in my supervisor’s office discussing my PhD research. I had told him about all the emotions, inadequacies and insecurities I was going through. It had been five months since I started my research and even though I had an idea what I was doing it still felt like I was meandering through uncharted waters.
And especially that day, I felt like I wasn’t making any progress. I felt lost.
While my supervisor was kind and offered his support, he also said something that I wasn’t expecting, something that made me stop in my tracks;
“Sunshine, you have to be committed”.
I found his words chilling and sparks went off in my head – that’s what tends to happen to me when I am at a cross-road and I am being offered a life-line.
At the start of this year, I came to a realisation that changed the way that I look at my goals and dreams. And I must point out here that changing the way you look at your goals and dreams is essentially changing the way you look at your life.
In the past I would get frazzled at the thought of how long it’s taking me to achieve some of my dreams. Even though I felt committed to my life’s journey and making my dreams come true, it dawned on me that I had to do much more than that.
See, as a principle, commitment governs itself. You cannot be committed if you are not committed. Put another way, the first thing you need to learn about commitment is that you have to be committed to it.
So at the start of this year when I understood this, I made a pact with commitment itself that is helping me to keep moving forward even when it seems as though I’m not making any progress.
Because it is very important, it fully qualifies as the 2nd law of fabulous living:
“Be committed to being committed”
This law will protect you from getting weary in times when you have done all you can and the only thing left is to breathe and wait. It will also aid you with discipline because you will realise that the only way to get results is to stay committed.
The beauty about commitment is that it never disappoints. Yes, sometimes it may take many years to get to where you want to go but you will get there if you stay on the path and remain steadfast.
Commitment is showing up over and over and over again. And this is one of the hardest things you and I will ever do in this life.
Personally, I tend to forget that it’s an everyday thing.
Finishing my PhD is important to me but with all the other things I’m working on I somehow let that fact slip away from my mind. Sitting in my supervisor’s office, I was reminded that if I want Dr. to replace Miss as a prefix to my name, I have to recommit myself.
The trip to Daylesford helped clear my head. I felt connected to God and to all other things at one and the same time. And for me, that is where commitment begins.
There has to be a connection somewhere if commitment is going to work.
We are done!
We have established the 3 laws that will help us live a fabulous life. I don’t know about you but I am very excited about this!
So, while I do my happy dance, you guys can go on ahead and meditate on the 2nd law of fabulous living 🙂