Sitting on the sidelines

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My CD finally arrived in the mail yesterday.

I was like a little girl with her first doll, tearing the package frantically so I could behold my treasure & hold it close.

When I carefully set it into the player, I had to hold my breath to steady my excitement. The music & lyrics washed over me, beautiful & real.

I love my music. I have moments of obsession with certain songs & artists. I lose myself until the song becomes one with my psyche.

One of the songs on my new CD talks about waiting for tomorrow; about sitting on the sidelines, waiting. It’s a thinking song.

I don’t know any person who would be willing to simply sit by & watch their life pass them by. There is a desire that burns inside all of us – we all want to be worthy participants in our lives & of those we love. This is what gets us out of bed every morning.

You want to do something. & you want to do it brilliantly. With gusto & purpose. This is one dream we all have in common. & even if the commonality ends here since our paths & journeys diverge in all sorts of direction, we are still carried on that single current of wanting to do beauty for ourselves & for our loved ones.

You cannot live a meaningful life without taking the whole thing seriously & by serious I mean sincere, aware & rendering it important.  I’ve had people tell me time & time again not to take things too seriously. I never know what they mean exactly  because taking things seriously doesn’t mean walking around with a sombre countenance all the time nor does it mean foregoing the having fun & enjoying what was intended to be a joy.

We tend to mistake awareness for seriousness or sombreness. The two are different, miles apart even. Awareness is about self-knowledge, other people knowledge & understanding precisely where you fit in the circle of life. & how your life is interlinked with other lives. It’s being mindful of the unravelling stuff that may one day touch our lives. It’s about putting everything that travels around us into perspective. It’s about balance.

Life is beautiful, no doubt. But we also have to be honest & acknowledge that it can also be tricky & difficult. Painful & heartbreaking too. We aim for balance & that is what awareness does for us. It pours stability into our souls & keeps us from being overwhelmed & pulled to either extreme.

I still struggle with this. I’m prone to extremes. Intense in my thinking & doing. What I’m learning & practising now is the art of softness & gentleness which is just as powerful.  We don’t have to fight all the time. We don’t have to be wound up.

I know it’s easier to feel small &unimportant in this big world. But you’ve got to believe that you were made for so much more than sitting on the sidelines, waiting for things to align themselves before you can start living. You’ve got to know & believe that you are important & let that fact move you to the centre of your story.

Here are a few things to get you started:

1) Know. Get to the nitty gritty of yourself. Know what lights you up & connect to the energy source of that. Celebrate the you that is uniquely you as well as the you that is like everyone else. It is something special. Use it.

2) Do something lovely everyday. There is no end to what you can do to bring a smile to someone else or to yourself. The act of random kindness & loveliness strengthens the belief that you can do this life thing & you’re building the skills to do it fabulously & fearlessly.

3) Protect yourself. You will be amazed at how quickly your resolve to live meaningfully can be unravelled. By other people, situations, the world, information overload, & even by yourself. Not everybody is pure-hearted as to want the best for you. Remember that & surround yourself with people who love the core of you unconditionally & want you to succeed. & hold the things that keep you sane close. To the very heart.

This should get you going. You are the hero of your life. You don’t want to look back one day & think “it could have been better.”

Now is the time to do it. You got this. I know you do.

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